acceptance and encouragement to build confidence

by Pastor Mark Jordan

“So do not throw away your confidence; it will be richly rewarded. You need to persevere so that when you have done the will of God, you will receive what he has promised.” (Hebrews 10:35-36, NIV)

I want to spend one more day on this idea and concept of confidence. On Tuesday we explored how discouragement is the loss of confidence. Yesterday, I gave some suggestions as to how you can begin to recover your confidence. Today I want to focus on the need for encouragement, because it is so difficult to recover confidence alone. We need a spiritual friend and family to remind us of our value and show we are accepted.

Rejection is one of the most detrimental things a person can experience. Rejection sends messages that cause one to feel unloved, unwelcome, and unworthy. Here are some of the psychological impacts of rejection: it send us on a mission to seek and destroy our self-confidence; it destabilizes our need to belong, which is a primary emotional need; it piggybacks on physical pain pathways in the brain where you can relive and re-experience social pain more vividly than physical pain; it creates surges of anxiety, anger, and aggression; and does not respond to reason and can temporarily lower our IQ as our brains work to protect our heart. You can see how damaging rejection can be!

IMG_1029We all face rejection from time-to-time. Biblically, we are given the saving and healing message of acceptance by God when we accept Jesus as our Savior. Romans 15:7 says, “Accept one another, then, just as Christ accepted you, in order to bring praise to God.” Your life brings praise to God when you accept his Son, Jesus, and others who are also created in his image. We are all called to accept and encourage others as we have been accepted and find encouragement in Christ. That message of acceptance…that you are worthy…that you are saved…that you belong…is what overcomes feelings of rejection. Talk about building confidence! May we receive this message and proclaim it to everyone!

Prayer: Dear Lord, thank you for accepting me in Jesus. Knowing I belong to you and others helps me heal from the feelings of rejection I receive in the world. Help me to show acceptance to others so I may help someone else stinging from the pain of rejection. I ask this in Jesus’ name. Amen.